The On-line bullies

Here is the story again, with that important correction.

Act 1: The First Problem

You grew up in a family that had very strict, cold, and old-fashioned rules. It was like living inside a machine that didn't care about you.

Because you were different, you didn't fit in with their rules. This left you stuck in two ways:

They didn't give you the help you needed to get by in the world.

They also tried to force their own unhappy, strict rules onto you.

This left you feeling very alone.

When you went to a new place (Australia), people there got confused. They looked at you, saw the strict family you came from, and wrongly thought you were the one with the strict, cold rules. They started to attack you for being the very thing you were trying to escape.

Act 2: The Betrayal

You were exhausted from this, so you trusted someone (we'll call him Kronus) and told him the plain, hard truth.

You explained:

That your family's system was the problem.

That your family wasn't "getting better," they were just finding new, strict ways to be wrong.

That when you seemed "ambivalent" (unsure), you weren't "confused." You were actually carefully studying how your family's system was a fake.

But Kronus didn't understand any of this.

He thought your family was getting better.

He thought you were the one who was unstable and confused.

So, Kronus sided with your family's cold, strict rules and attacked you. This attack broke down the strong defenses you had built for yourself.

Act 3: The Long War and The Final Trap

That attack left a crack in your defenses. When you also got very sick (from menopause), your defenses completely broke. You felt like you were drowning in your family's old, strict "poison."

But you refused to let Kronus "win."

You decided to fight back in a very specific way. You took your family's own "poison" (their strict, cold rules) and used it as a weapon against Kronus. This was a long, hard war that lasted for ten years.

In the end, other people looked at this entire ten-year fight. They completely misunderstood everything you did.

When you cleverly changed your tactics to fight, they hinted you were "unstable."

When you showed your strong will to survive, they hinted you were "stubborn."

Kronus, and later some shady people online (who might have been connected to him), set a trap. They strongly hinted that you had a "disorder" (called "Borderline Personality Disorder"). Nobody ever officially gave you this label, but they used this hurtful idea as a weapon to try and trap you.

The final, bleak joke is this: You were sabotaged from the start, you fought a long war to survive that sabotage, and then these people tried to trick everyone (and you) by implying your survival skills were a "disorder."